When Cheryl treats me like a kid, she removes a burden I didn’t know I was carrying:
Melissa was impossible to ignore: a bright running jacket, a laugh that ricocheted off mirrored walls, and a presence like someone who came with her own weather. She’d been at Ironwood for a while—long enough that the trainers knew her by name and the smoothie bar staff recognized her “regular” order. She saw Jenna on the first Monday morning in March, a good day to make a new habit, and made a beeline over as if they were lifelong friends catching up at a bus stop.
Our culture worships autonomy. In the gym, especially, we idolize the lone wolf—the hoodie-clad lifter who grunts in solitude, never asks for a spot, and certainly never accepts a corrected lat pull-down from a woman who smells like lavender laundry detergent.
I’ll be honest. I still get annoyed. Last week, Cheryl told me to stop using my phone between sets. "You’re breaking your focus," she said. "Put it in your bag." I mumbled something about needing to answer a work email. She raised one eyebrow. I put the phone away.
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She is usually in fantastic shape—often better shape than you. This is her domain. While you fumble with the cable machine settings, she is re-racking 45-pound plates with the ease of a dock worker. She has been doing aerobics since Jane Fonda wore leg warmers, and she has zero patience for your "new school" science.
